“our team” speaks life
Jessi Connolly
Posted on January 30, 2013
This picture is of our actual core team – they’re women I love and respect and I’m grateful beyond grateful to have them in my life.
A phrase we use occasionally at Influence in reference to people within the network is “they’re on our team”. We don’t mean they have a job or they attend our core team meetings, but we value them (YOU) just as much as we value those that do. Women that are on our team are simply women that get what we’re about. They understand what we mean when we say we want to make online life mean something. They are asking God to help them seize and steward the influence He’s given them. We’ll lovingly speak about y’all when we want you to teach a class or when we’ve seen something amazing you’ve shared in the forums and we say – “Oh. I love that _________. She’s on our team.”
As you’ve probably seen, Influence isn’t an exclusive club. It’s isn’t a who’s who list of famous women online. It’s just women genuinely wanting to do this thing together and to find that when we step away from the internet, we’ve made our time here count. It’s not a particularly prestigious thing to be on our team, but goodness gracious – we pray that once you’ve joined us, you’ll feel loved and uplifted. Today I thought I’d share with you one core value that we want all women of Influence to be about.
Women on our team should speak life.
I wrote an eBook last year that ended up challenging the mess out of myself in regards to how I use my words and how I purpose to communicate with those around me. In it, I gave the example of a driver I encountered early one morning in a Walmart parking lot. It was crazy early and the parking lot was deserted, so I cut through the lanes to go straight to the front of the store. I was no where in danger of hitting the other driver, but my actions TOTALLY offended her and she proceeded to lay on her horn and scream and shout obscenities at me from a long way off. The experience kind of rattled me, but it also showed me that we’re all like that woman when we’re online. We have this ability to SCREAM life and bless others or we can, in selfishness and sin, SCREAM death.
For as long as we live, we will have excuses to be rude and sarcastic. To complain. To criticize. To talk behind others backs. To say snarky things or say just enough to make others worry about what we’re thinking. BUT. For every excuse we have to be negative, we have a thousand more to be positive. As women of Influence, women who have been influenced by Jesus Christ, we shouldn’t even waste our time with justifying our negative words. Not when our time is precious and people are listening.
I’m not saying we’re always going to be perfect. I’m not saying our actual team has always been perfect. I am saying, it’s something we’re seriously committed to here and we want you to be as well. However large your influence is today, people are listening and watching and waiting to hear what it is you’ll say with your words and your actions. Your children as you greet them in the morning. Your roommates. Your coworkers. Your husband. Your twitter followers.
Tell them today who they really are and how amazing He really is.
Speak truth and life and encouragement and blessing to them.
Be on our team. We’d love to have you.

Love this post Jessi! Thank you for reminding us that to be apart of a team, we need to first be a team player. If you want in on it, join in and participate – you and Hayley have both encouraged me on this one. There’s always apart of me that hangs back, on the sidelines, hoping someone will invite me in – but its the insecure part. It’s the part that forgets I’m fearfully and wonderfully made and God values me. When I remember that my identity and confidence is in Him, I can take my self-conscious gaze off of myself, and look to others and join in. See the needs and meet them. Hear the hurt in others, and speak life and truth and love. I still have a LONG way to go, but I’m slowly learning.
I agree with Heather, I tend to sit on the sidelines and wait to be invited in. What I hadn’t realized is that I have been invited in! The Lord has brought you lovely ladies into my life for a reason and you HAVE extended the invite. I just needed to hear that it was ME you were speaking to! I have learned so much from each of you and feel like I know you, now it’s time for me to meet you half way and join in!
Today I join!
And may God Bless our faces off!
Xoxo
Love this! I’m behind every word of this 100%.
It’s so interesting that you posted today about being part of a team together. I was in my mom’s group meeting the other day, and they asked if any of us felt like we had a team of people in our lives who are for us, and with us, and speaking truth into our lives. I do have many strong Christian friendships IRL, but my immediate thought was of this group, and how it’s blessed my life already. I have a big team of women that I haven’t even seen in person behind me, working toward the same goal! It’s awesome.
Absolutely loves this post! Thank you for always bringing so much life and love to all you do. It blesses me more than you will ever know.
This post is so good. What a challenge it can be to have life giving words when tired, cranky, with our loved ones who we know will forgive us, but also who we hurt the most and the most easily. What a good reminder to jump in and be part of the team, but also that it isn’t just this online community who is watching.
Thank you for the reminder.
BEAUTIFUL. This is so true. Lately, I have been so in-tuned to how we can actually speak life or death! For years, sometimes I would speak life and sometimes I would speak death. It all depended on my mood! Over the last two years, I have realized and He has taught me that I called to speak LIFE regardless of my “mood” or how I “feel”, and regardless of whether or not someone spoke life to me! Thank you for challenging me even further.
Dude. Yes. I’m in.
Thanks Jessi , I love it and couldn’t agree more!
I love this post! Every single day we have the opportunity to bless and encourage others with our words. This is a beautiful reminder of the power of the tongue (or typing fingers if you’re a blogger like me:) ). Well said!
I’m on the team!